Pregnancy Dreams and Why They're So Screwy

You are walking down the street on a normal fall day. As you walk, you notice the breeze pick up and leaves start to swirl more than usual. You look behind you and then turn back to face front only to see a huge purple and yellow cow standing in your path. The cow stand on its back two legs and asks you for a breath mint. As you hand the cow a breath mint, you realize you’re carrying a Star Wars lunch box as a purse.

Dreams during pregnancy can be absolutely wild and downright scary sometimes! Women who are pregnant often experience changes that include more frequent dreaming, nightmares, anxiety-based dreams, and the ability to remember dreams. Since your body is going through so many changes, it’s not shocking that you experience these changes!

Since our mental, physical, and emotional states are all intertwined, as your body changes so does your mind. One likely cause is due to the increase in hormone production. Pregnancy hormones (like Progesterone) often have the ability to affect and increase emotional distress as well as Anxiety. They also impact the way your brain takes in information and processes it. It’s very possible those strange dreams have something to do with that! (This also may be an explanation why a lot of pregnant women find themselves having sexual dreams.)

During pregnancy our sleep schedule is also disrupted. Whether it’s due to an inability to fall asleep, physical discomfort from an expanding body, or just needing to pee in the middle of the night (a million times…) this changes our sleep cycles and disrupts what is known as REM sleep. The REM or Rapid Eye Movement stage of sleep is the stage in which dreaming happens. When this is disrupted it can affect the length, frequency, or even ability to remember the dreams. This may sometimes be the cause of the more vivid or easily remembered dreams.

Some experts also believe that pregnancy dreams are a way of your unconscious mind dealing with the increased stress or anxiety that accompanies bringing a new life into the world.

While there is no actual scientific answer for why dreams during pregnancy are so weird, there are many contributing factors that definitely make sense! If your dreams aren’t bothering you, simply return back to sleep and visit the purple and yellow cow again. If they’re a bit disturbing or unnerving, consider keeping a dream journal either on your phone or in a notebook by your bed. It may be your unconscious mind trying to process something important! If your dreams, however, veer into dangerous or scary territory frequently, it may be a good idea to talk with a counselor, therapist, or friend to check in and make sure everything is okay.

No matter what crazy, alarming, or sexual dreams you’re having at night, make sure you’re still doing your best to rest as much as possible! We do a lot of healing and growing at night and your body is literally making a human being. Relax, take a deep breath, and dive back into some REM sleep.

Sweet (or slightly weird) dreams!

Our Favorite Toddler Shows (without Talking Animals)

Team Umizoomi

This cute show features two main characters, Milli and Geo, and a robot named Bot. Together they soar through space and explore math concepts. From counting to simple addition and subtraction, this show is a well done dive into prepping kids to enter preschool by introducing numbers in a fun way.

Little Einsteins

An oldie but a goody, Little Einsteins is based on the ideas behind the Baby Einstein franchise. This show’s main characters are Leo, Annie, June, and Quincy. They fly in their rocket and solve puzzles in each episode. Weaving classical paintings and music into each adventure, this show also introduces concepts like patterns, colors, and shapes.

Sid the Science Kid

In classic Ed Henson style, Sid the Science Kid features human-like characters who are very...well, Muppet-inspired. They are definitely kids and Sid, the lead, loves to explore new scientific questions, theories, and concepts. Touching on a range of subjects, this show is full of fun characters and learning.

Yo Gabba Gabba!

Okay, this show isn’t *technically* talking animals because they’re…..well, we don’t know what they are. But the’re not animals. Yo Gabba Gabba is a brilliantly colored show full of electronic music, emotions, and fun dances. While not educational in a school sense, it touches on everyday skills like sharing, brushing teeth, and getting ready for bed. Plus it features some of our favorite bands. This is one we’ll actually watch too.

Charlie and Lola

The misadventures of Charlie and Lola are somehow soothing and precious as these siblings stumble through life learning together. This UK-based show features soft colors, life lessons, and main characters with British accents. This one’s pretty sweet.

Top 5 Books for New Big Siblings

Becoming a big sibling can bring a range of emotions from excitement to fear. An incredible way to help kids talk about those things? Books! Read your littles stories of big brothers and big sisters to help them understand and relate to what the characters are going through. We’ve gathered 5 great options for your bedtime stories to add to your library.

1. Lola Reads to Leo by Anna McQuinn :

This sweet book highlights the main character, Lola, and her love of reading. She, of course, wants to introduce that love to her new baby brother. From bringing a soft book to her new brother’s crib to reading him a book in the evening, she thinks being a big sister is the “best gift of all”. This story promotes a love of reading and a love of sharing with the new baby, making it the perfect addition to your library.

2. The New Small Person by Lauren Child :

This story is a very familiar tale for many families. An older sibling and an unwelcome change to their dynamic. Elmore Green takes to calling his new sibling “it” and recounts the tale of how “it” licks his jelly bean collection! The shift from only child to older brother can be a tricky one and this book does a beautiful job of combining a common struggle with beautiful imagery and finally reaching the resolution of a new small person being a friend.

3. Once Upon a Baby Brother by Sarah Sullivan:

Older siblings can have very conflicting thoughts about a new baby joining their family. They have typically been the sole focus of their parents for their whole lives! With that shift comes a new dynamic. Sarah Sullivan tells this story from Lizzie, a celebrated and gifted storyteller’s perspective. It’s a sweet and helpful way to introduce the concept of a baby to a sibling who might be old enough to understand just what’s going on.

4. Outside Over There by Maurice Sendak :

A strange fantasy tale, this book is one full of differing emotions from love to resentment. When goblins steal Ida’s baby sister to make her a goblin bride, Ida must go “outside over there” to get her back. This may seem a weird addition to this list but everything that a new sibling goes through, emotion-wise.

5. Ish by Peter H Reynolds :

This book makes the list for the middle siblings. A story about Ramon and his love of drawing, his hopes, dreams, and joy are all dashed in a split second by a comment made by his older brother. When he realizes his art isn’t perfect, he plans to destroy it all until his younger sister steps in and helps him see that art doesn’t have to be perfect, it can be “-ish”. This story highlights both the importance of celebrating imperfections and the bond between siblings.

Questions to Ask Your Placenta Encapsulator

Placenta Encapsulation has been a hot topic for pregnant people and healthcare providers alike recently. With families in Charlotte often calling us to learn more, we decided to compile a list of questions you should be asking before you book your Placenta Encapsulation. Uptown Doula makes it top priority to ensure the safety of each of our clients that books this service with us and we believe in asking the right questions!

1. Where do you Encapsulate?

Where your encapsulator processes your placenta is incredibly important. Do they have a dedicated space or will their family be eating dinner next to your placenta? Do they have pets that could introduce different microbial elements to the delicate microbiome of your placenta?

Uptown Doula will only process your placenta in your home. We feel it is the safest for our clients as it ensures that there are not foreign elements to your placenta and it never leaves your possession. There is no risk of it being confused with someone else’s and you also get to watch the sanitization process.

2. What is your process?

Your encapsulator should be able to walk you through each step of the process they will be performing.

Uptown Doula completes a thorough sanitizing of the area we’ll be working in, and steams, dehydrates, grinds, and encapsulates the placenta over the course of two days.

3. Can you guarantee a certain number of pills?

Unfortunately, it’s impossible to guarantee a certain number of pills. The yield from the process varies based on the size of your placenta. If anyone gives you a guaranteed number, run! There’s a possibility they will add herbs or other foreign substances to increase the number of pills.

4. Are you Blood Borne Pathogen Certified?

BBP certification is important to ensure the proper disposal and cleaning of any organ that contains blood. The proper procedures should be employed to make sure that there is no cross-contamination and pathogens have been destroyed.

5. Will you use a raw or low temp method?

Knowing this is key to making sure you’re using someone you trust. Doing your own research on this topic is key. A raw or low-temp method is supposedly less invasive and yields more capsules. However, a raw method does leave you open to the risk of pathogens that cannot be destroyed using low temperatures.

Uptown Doula will not use a raw method of encapsulation, we use a method close to the Traditional Chinese Method.

6. Who are you trained through?

There are encapsulators who process Placentas with no formal training. Asking this question leaves nothing to chance, and gives you the information you need to make the best decision for you.

7. At what point would you not encapsulate?

If a fever occurs during labor, your placenta should not be processed. There are a few other situations in which safety is in question, and these should definitely be discussed.

Placenta Encapsulation has been reported to aid in healing, milk production, energy, mood stabilizing, and more. The benefits of this process are many but the safety of it is often debated. By asking the right questions, you can take your safety into your own hands, leaving nothing to chance. Your safety is the absolute top priority of Uptown Doula when you’re finding your Postpartum Placenta Specialist in Charlotte.

Interested in placenta services? If so, you can do that right here! We are standing by to answer all your questions and help point you in the right direction.

Stop Buying Lame Gifts: A Gift Guide for Modern Moms

Gone are the days of buying frilly, unnecessary gifts. You’re a smart gift-giver and you know that there are things way better than doilies and aprons as gifts for a new mom. You are also probably busy and hoping to find a clever and useful gift like right now.

We got you!

We’ve rounded up some of our favorite things to give new moms so you don’t have to worry about the idea. (Don’t worry, you can still take credit.)

1. Food

If you want to be the real hero, gift food. Food will always be the quickest way to someone’s heart, especially a new family’s. Of course meal trains are a staple of welcoming any new baby but what happens when the train hits the end of the line? That’s where you come in.

Gifting freezer meals is an incredible way to stock a new family for their upcoming long days and long nights. Imagine, after hours of dealing with a crying baby, partner comes downstairs and pops something completely homemade and in a disposable pan from the freezer to the oven, stumbles back to their newborn, dozes off for a moment and awakes to the smell of dinner. Magical. Other magic options include restaurant gift cards, paying for a Wildtree Freezer Meal Workshop, or even stocking up on snacks! Lots of people bring full meals (which is awesome) but think of all the snacks a hungry family will need while taking care of their little one. They’ll eat a granola bar and smile, thinking of you.

2. Booze

Okay, parents, let’s get real. After living life for all the bright, sunshine-y hours of the day, we could all probably use a drink. Right?

Yes, we’re right.

What better thing to gift a parent who needs a little break than a subscription to a wine or beer service? Every month a little cheer will be delivered to their doorstep reminding them of how thoughtful and amazing their friends and family are. They may even toast in your honor! This one is a home run for sure.

3. Memory Book

The days are long but the years are short. Time flies so quickly when you have a baby and with that time flies brain cells. Sleepless nights, resting and healing days, and just general day-to-day often leaves parents shocked when they can’t remember their 5-year-old as a baby. A sweet, thoughtful gift to help them recall the sweet moments is a memory book. Something simple they can just quickly write down milestones or sweet moments.

4. Devotional Book

Self-care often goes out the window when a new baby enters the scene. A lovely way to remind new parents to stop and think for a minute is some sort of daily journal. Whether it’s a faith-based devotional, a book of positive parenting affirmations, a daily calendar with words of encouragement, or even a book put together with encouraging letters from friends and family, a book of inspirational messages can be just the thing to help parents redirect their mind for a minute.

5. Moms Night Out

Take your new mama friend out for a Mom’s Night Out! What better gift than the gift of fun with friends? If she’s up to leaving baby with someone, go out dancing! Take her out on the town and let her get a few hours of life as a woman, not a mom. We’re quick to lose ourselves in motherhood, an incredible way to gift someone is to remind them that they’re a person too!

Maybe she’s a stay in type of woman. Easy. Grab a few friends, let partner know they’re on baby duty, and have everyone bring a dish for a fun, low-key potluck. You could even make them themed! Does your friend have a Rachel Green obsession? Throw Friends on the TV and have everyone bring a themed dish to match. Game of Thrones more their speed? How about some Chicken LittleFingers?

...you get the idea.

Other fun options for nights out might be a progressive meal (drinks at one place, apps at another, etc) around a certain neighborhood, a brewery tour, or even a wine tasting. The possibilities are endless. BONUS: Plan these nights in advance and gift your friend with a list of outings and the proposed dates.

6. Baby Carrier

One of the most useful baby-related gifts that a parent could own is a baby carrier. Even the sweetest babies have hard days and need to be held….a lot. A baby carrier can mean the difference between feeling like you’re a human pacifier and feeling like you accomplished things even though your little was struggling.

The world of babywearing can be overwhelming so if you aren’t sure where to start, we have just the option for you. Book a consult with a Certified Babywearing Educator! These absolute angels listen to parents’ lifestyles and help match them with the perfect carrier for them and then teach them how to properly use them. Not sure where to find one? Fun fact: Owner, Haley, is your girl.

Check her out here!

Tulas are generally a pretty good option for beginning babywearers and grow right along with baby as they get bigger. No matter what you choose, this option is sure to be a smash hit.

I Want to be Daniel Tiger's Mom

Photo Credit: https://www.fredrogers.org/

Who is your mom hero?

Mine is easy and also doesn’t actually exist. My mom hero?

Daniel Tiger’s mom. Easy answer.

First of all, Daniel and Margaret are adorable. They’re always dressed, bathed, fed healthy foods, and learning important life lessons. While they learn them everywhere, their mom is always there with a calm word and a song to help them.

Daniel’s mom (whose name is actually Collette, fun fact!) is always there with a kind word and a tune to sing. She gets two kids, a baby and a toddler, no less, ready for the day without tears, angst, or frustrated words. She never gets angry, she meets her offspring with an incredible amount of kindness even though she’s asked her son to put his shoes on literally 10 million times.

Goals.

If you’ve ever parented a baby and a preschooler you know that shit’s hard. Dealing with a teeny human and a slightly-less-teeny human is a whole thing. Between getting dressed, the resistance to getting dressed, mealtime, the resistance to mealtime...I think you see the pattern...getting two small ones ready and out the door can be a nightmare. Daniel Tiger’s Mom, however? She somehow always responds in kindness.

Wow.

Can we talk about her voice? She’s literally constantly kind. Her voice communicates kindness, love, and support each and every freaking time. She has a soothing, perfectly motherly voice that makes us want to either fall asleep or roll our eyes. We’re not sure. Probably both.

Literally, how?

We’re doulas here, let’s chat about pregnancy and childbirth. Momma Tiger carried that baby with more grace than we’ve probably ever seen. She then birthed that baby and walked home. Genuinely impressed (and don’t recommend, to be honest, but we digress). She was an inspiration of calm, even when she knew she was bringing Baby Margaret into the world that day!

Remember Banana Swirl?? That’s some Pinterest Mom shit. How were we supposed to know you could freeze bananas and fool your kids into thinking it was actual ice cream? We’re literally still not sure that would fly in our house. So not only is she brilliant, she’s brave AF for trying that one.

Basically she’s our shining example of what a mom should be. Kind, loving, patient, always ready with a teaching moment, and adorable. Thank you, Mama Tiger, for showing us all what we should aspire to (and how to be kind to ourselves when we mess up).

How to Induce Labor Naturally: A Doula's Guide to Natural Induction

37...38...39...weeks keep passing and your baby is still hanging out? We’ve heard it said before that the first part of pregnancy goes so quickly and the last month lasts a year. It totally feels that way. Between a baby that has grown to nearing the size of a watermelon to your shifting center of gravity and ligaments stretching and loosening, there is often a lot of anticipation and discomfort that comes with the final days of pregnancy.

As doulas, we’re often asked about natural induction techniques.

Now, while anything involving induction is clearly some sort of augmentation of normal labor, there are some home remedies that have been suggested to begin or help labor progress. Bear in mind, each person is different and not every technique will work for every person. Some of them are kind of funny and some of them have an origin of scientific evidence. No matter which you choose, always be sure to check in with your doctor and pay close attention to how you’re feeling.

1. Pineapple Juice/Spicy Foods

One of the widest known (and easiest techniques is eating or drinking something to help bring on labor. Pineapple juice is a very common suggestion (and a pretty delicious one). It’s said that the enzymes it contains can help jump-start labor. Honestly, this one is probably worth a shot. If nothing else, it’s a nice, fruity pick-me-up.

Another edible option is spicy food. Wives tales tell us spicy food can help naturally induce labor. The two main theories why this may work are that the spicy foods may stimulate the digestive tract, bringing on contractions. Another is it may stimulate Prostaglandin, one of the things known to help soften the cervix. Regardless, this is a great excuse to grab yourself some Indian food or chips and salsa.

2. Chiro Care

This is a big one! While Chiropractors don’t claim to be able to start labor, Chiropractic care has been known to help get baby into a good position in the pelvis. In order for your cervix to dilate, thin, and efface, baby’s head must be against it. It’s not too far-fetched to think that getting baby positioned properly may help bring on labor. The other main benefit of Chiropractic care is increased comfort throughout pregnancy. Make sure you seek out a Webster Certified Chiropractor, which is one that works specifically with expectant parents.

3. Massage

There is both scientific and anecdotal evidence to back this one up. Anecdotally, there are some pressure points that may help bring on contractions. This is why people often have to be careful when getting pedicures and often seek out acupuncture or acupressure to bring baby out. Scientifically, touch stimulates the production of Oxytocin in our brains. This hormone (also called the “love hormone”) is responsible for the progression of labor. When you get a massage, you’re spending an hour or so stimulating Oxytocin in your brain.

This is also a great opportunity to help your partner connect with you through the process (and spoil you a little bit).

4. Sex

Ah, yes. Sex. We’ve often heard it said that you get baby out the same way you got baby in. Frankly, there’s some truth to that. Semen contains Prostaglandin, the same hormone found in Cervidil which is often used to help induce labor in the hospital. The gel is placed against the cervix in hopes of helping it soften. The DIY version of this is to...well...get it on. In addition, sex and, more specifically, orgasms produce a lot of Oxytocin in our brains. The combo of Prostaglandin and Oxytocin may just be exactly what you need to send you into labor. And, honestly, it’s a fun way to pass the time even if it doesn’t.

Natural Induction of Labor is a highly searched term on Google and a frequently asked question from our clients. We’re often walking people through exactly how they can serve their baby an eviction notice. The last month or so of pregnancy can often drag on so sometimes even just giving these methods a try can help you get through.

Have you tried a Natural Induction? What methods have you heard of? Let us know in the comments!

The Best-Kept Not-So-Secret in Pregnancy: Webster Technique

The best-kept not-so-secret in Pregnancy comfort is within reach.

Chiropractic care has long been a controversial subject when it comes to treating pregnant individuals. While there is some truth to the fact that expectant mothers shouldn’t see any chiropractor, the benefits of seeing a Chiropractor with additional training in the Webster technique is clear.

Overall, most patients report a decrease in their discomfort. If that’s not worth it, there is also anecdotal evidence that suggests alignment of the pelvis can help your baby get into a good position for birth and some patients have even begun labor soon after seeing their chiropractor!

Want to give Natural Induction a try? A Chiropractor may just be your answer!

The Webster Technique is a highly specialized method of treating those carrying a baby. By using modified positions, avoiding some areas, and adjusting the pelvis, your Chiropractor may be able to help you ease things like sciatic pain and general discomfort as your baby grows.

Your little one grows through your entire pregnancy.

(Yes, this is an obvious statement).

This combined with the hormone Relaxin can wreak havoc on your body. Relaxin is the hormone responsible for telling your joints and ligaments to loosen and allow for movement as your baby gets bigger and bigger. It’s responsible for incredibly fun things like your hips spreading but can also lend itself to the “unstable” feeling pregnant individuals often feel.

Bearing this in mind, Webster Certified Chiropractors know just how to work with your ever-changing joints and ligaments to ensure the safety of both you and your baby.

Now, there is a community that would have you believe that Chiro care is “snake oil” and there’s no reason you need it. If that’s you, fine. We’re all entitled to our own opinions, right?

However, Uptown Doula doesn’t subscribe to that. We love Chiropractors for quite a few reasons, including the fact that our clients have seen awesome results by seeing one regularly. Chiropractors are real-life doctors!

Yes, that type of doctorate.

In order to become a Chiropractor one must complete around 3 years of undergraduate education before entering a program to receive their Doctorate. They typically take 4 years to complete on top of the 3 years of undergrad. A Chiropractic degree requires education in anatomy, physiology, and biology as well as business practices and finance. They’re also supervised in a clinical setting before graduating.

Then…

They have to sit for a licensing exam! Not all Chiropractors are created equal and they aren’t legally allowed to treat patients until they’re both educated and licensed.

Basically what we’re saying is this: Chiropractors are legit.

They’re also not all created equally which is why we make sure to let our clients know that it’s important to seek out one who is specifically trained in the Webster Technique. The training involves ongoing reporting of findings as well as tests to maintain membership and ensure that everyone practicing the technique are up-to-date on new developments and the latest safety procedures.

Feeling the struggle of pregnancy wearing on your body? Can you guess what we’re going to recommend?

Seek Chiropractic care!

Oh, you’re looking for a recommendation?

Never fear! We have an amazing one.

Dr. Stefanie Gross is the one you want to see. Not only is she an ICPA Certified Chiropractor (meaning she can see you and your baby), she’s also a doula. You can probably imagine why we love that. Between growing up under chiropractic care and training extensively to promote wellness in families and children, she’s the perfect match for yours.

And, no, we’re not being paid to say this. We just love her!

If you’d like more information or to contact her, reach out to Adjusting the World Chiropractic in Huntersville, NC. You can find them at www.adjustingtheworld.com

All-in-all, we’ve seen excellent results in reduction of pain and facilitation of labor through the Webster Technique. Whether you’re looking for Natural Induction options or just a way to keep your active mom lifestyle, Chiro care may be a great fit for you.

You're Outnumbered. Now What?

Congratulations and welcome to the club! You are going to be outnumbered soon and will know what it really feels like to have your hands full. You already feel stretched thin and the thought of adding one more child seems impossible. You’re right. While you may be at your limit, that doesn’t mean you are completely maxed out. You are just maxed out right now. Once you welcome your new little squish into your home you will learn to cope with even more demands on your time, I promise. Here are some things that helped me when I became a mother of three. Remember, you got this.

1.       Lower the expectations. Unfortunately, motherhood is nothing like the movies (you learned this real fast in the labor and delivery room) yet the expectations we put on ourselves might as well be. It’s a trend that needs to go away and go away real fast. We are quick to judge ourselves harshly based on what Penelope Perfect posted on Instagram. What?! Girlfriend, give yourself grace, love yourself and for the love…lower the expectations! You may think you are doing a shit job as a mother of three (or more) but the fact that you are taking the time to read this right now says a lot. It tells me you are a kick ass mom. Keep doing what your doing and please continue reading. It gets better.

2.       Take the help. There’s no need to try and do everything on your own. Believe it or not, people want to help mothers when they bring home a new baby. When they offer anything, take it! When they ask, “what do you need?”, tell them and don’t be shy about it. I’m sure later down the road you will be happy to return the favor when they need you because your awesome like that.

3.       Babywear. This one is pretty straight forward. Wear that baby! Trust me mama, it will make caring for the big kids so much easier. We are talking about free hands after all. Your baby can even catch a snooze on your chest while you drop your older kids off at school.

4.       Meal plan. I know what you may be thinking. This sounds like a HUGE task and impossible right now but sit tight and refer back to tip #1 if you need a refresher. Meal planning does not have to be this perfect thing you found on Pinterest. Think simple. Start with snacks. I’ve learned the quickest way to a toddler meltdown revolves around food. By the way, toddlers have the worst timing of anyone I know. The second you sit down to feed your newborn the big kids will get the memo and want to eat too. Like, right now! The quickest way to fix this problem is to have easy snacks prepped and ready to go. Your kids can still eat healthy without you standing in front of the fridge wondering what to give them.

Another great way to stay ahead of the food game is to meal prep with friends. Grab the wine and turn this into a fun time with girlfriends. They may be in the same boat you are and would love to spend time prepping meals with you.

 5.       Self-Care day. Self-care is key! You can’t give what you don’t have so if you are running on empty, girl fill your tank. There’s no right or wrong way to do this and may even require some experimenting. You may find taking a full morning, afternoon, or an entire day to get exactly what you need. How does a weekend away with girlfriends sound? You may not be at that level yet but when you get there, I highly suggest it.

For now, start by asking your partner, your mother, your mother-in-law or your really close friend to help give you a break. Let me be clear, this time is all about YOU! This is not the time to wash the dishes, fold laundry or clean the house. Find a quiet place and read a book, plug into your favorite podcast or binge watch that Nexflix series you’ve been putting off for so long. It’s ok to be selfish sometimes, healthy even. Think of it like a teaching tool for your kids. By taking care of yourself, you are teaching your children the importance of self-care. You are showing them, hey, it’s ok to ask for help.

Bonus tip. Hire a postpartum doula. What’s a postpartum doula you ask? A postpartum doula is postpartum & newborn care expert that is there for you in ways you need her most. Light housekeeping, meal prep, laundry, and breastfeeding support are just a few things you can expect when you hire a postpartum doula. Overnight care, you got it! Your doula is happy to feed your baby and give you the night off so you can catch up on sleep and recharge. Breastfeeding? That’s cool too. We can bring your baby to you when she’s ready to nurse and then soothe her back to sleep so you can do the same.

Uptown Doula is here to lend an extra set of hands. Visit our webiste to learn more about what we do to help support Charlotte familes. You can also find more awesome blogs just like this one!

You may be outnumbered and that’s ok but remember, you got this.

Self-Care Isn't Selfish, It's Necessary

Self-care isn't selfish, it's necessary. Let me ask you a question. If you had 45 minutes of self-care time a day how would you spend it?  

You have kids and trust me, I get it. I’ve got three young kids myself which means I’ve got three tiny little humans constantly needing something from me which doesn’t leave much time for me to take care of myself.

Lets’ be honest here. You can’t give what you don’t have. Just like coffee, if the pot is empty, you won’t be able to fill your cup.

Not long after moving to the Charlotte, North Carolina area I made a conscience effort to take care of myself and make “me” a priority. I told myself, “2018 is going to be my year! I'm going to kick ass and grow Uptown Doula. In with the new and out with the old."

In order to make this happen though, I needed to figure out what was bringing me down the most and start there.  It wasn’t hard to realize what was holding me back... My body image. For you, it may be something else totally unrelated. That's ok! My struggles may be different from your struggles. My needs may be polar opposite of your needs. What's holding me back may not be what's holding you back. Figure out what's weighing you down (no pun intended, I promise) and start there. 

I’ve never had to struggle with weight until now. As a young child I was very active. I was a gymnast, I played softball, basketball and even ran cross-country and track. Throughout the years I never gave much thought about my weight, BMI or nutrition plan. Fad diets were never on my radar either. I ate and drank whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.

It wasn’t until the birth of my third child that I noticed a difference in my body. First time around I bounced back pretty fast after giving birth, but I had a harder time after giving birth to my third baby.

I did all the things: I joined a local gym, counted calories, began a running routine, and said goodbye to craft beer. Of course, none of these things were sustainable (for me anyway). I stopped going to the gym after about two weeks, started eating crappy food again, quit running after day 4, and began enjoying craft beer again (By the way, the last one was not entirely my fault. We had company over and I couldn’t let them drink alone. That’s just rude).

Overall, I felt like an absolute failure and began the downward spiral and self-loathing phase. It was horrible and not how I imagined myself being as a mother of three. I knew then something had to change.

A few months ago, I started my two-week, free trial at Burn Boot Camp in Denver, North Carolina. I knew several close friends who raved about Burn so I thought I’d give it a shot. It was two weeks of free childcare. I wasn’t going to pass that up plus it would let me know right away if it was going to be sustainable for me long-term.

Day one was scary and I’m not entirely sure why. The hardest part was making the decision to sign up, now all I had to do was show up and do the work. Full disclosure: This place is intense! Each camp last 45-minutes and you work the entire time plus there’s usually a fun, high-intensity finisher at the end. Because you’re working so hard, the 45-minutes flies by.

There’s your silver lining.

What makes Burn Boot Camp so unique from other health clubs is, you’re actually pushed past what you think you can do. I’m a little embarrassed to say that when I was working out on my own I would use no more than 5-pound weights. Now I use 15-25 pound weights. Don’t worry, you won’t end up looking like a beefy body builder (unless you want to) but you will look and feel much stronger than you do right now. Empowering, yes?

When you walk into Burn, you are surrounded by women, mostly moms, just like you. Being a mother can be lonely at times. We’re so busy and life demands so much from us, so it’s refreshing to meet other moms going through some of the same struggles you are and powering through camp together with the sound of energetic, hip-hop music in the background (we know this is your jam).

No matter what state of fitness you fall into, your highly trained, certified personal trainers are there to guide you, help improve your form, and even dish out high fives along the way. They even provide individualized focus meetings where you set your goals and devise a plan that fits your unique lifestyle. Nutrition is important and your Burn trainer helps build a meal plan that actually works! After all, food was meant to be enjoyed right?

If you are thinking about taking the plunge and joining this amazing women-centered gym, now is the best time to do it! Commit 2 Fit is back by popular demand! This amazing 6-week challenge runs from September 4th – November 16th and is only $99!

This very small investment packs a HUGE punch!

You not only get six full weeks of high intensity (self-care) work-outs, you also get a packet full of information including: Accountability calendar, fitness challenges, eating guide. and stretching routine. 

Curious about what a typical Burn Camp is like? Check out their Facebook page. Billy Haynes is the owner of Denver, North Carolina’s Burn Boot Camp and he’s also the Lead Certified Personal Trainer and a super nice guy who sinceerly wants to help you feel your best!

Why join Burn?

Because your body will thank you later

Because sometimes that push is all you need.

Because working out with friends makes it so much more fun.

Because it cleanses your mind and channels your energy

Because it feels good.

Because it’s addicting and you’ll love it! I pinky swear.

Coping with Prodromal Labor

Early labor, Active Labor and Transition make up the three stages of labor.

While most mothers go through all three phases of labor, there is a possible fourth phase known as prodromal labor. This phase is one that is rarely spoken about, but commonly experienced by first time mothers.

Prodromal labor certainly deserves attention.

Although prodromal labor is totally normal, pregnant mothers who experience this do not always think so. Prodromal labor (AKA False Labor) is an elongated period of time that can last days of hard labor type contractions and discomfort but doesn't progress into a "normal labor pattern". Prodromal labor can be very intense, however, your uterus is NOT broken and medical intervention is NOT the only way out.

Actually, what prodromal labor absolutely means is that you’re nearing the end of pregnancy you’re your baby will soon be in your arms.

While you may not find many articles on this topic, the new mom blogs, the community boards are flooded with experiences. All of them say the same thing. Make rest, hydration, and nourishment your number one priority; add a little patience and you will get through this.  I Promise!

The prodromal phase can typically last anywhere from 24-72 hours.

Yes, this early phase of labor is considered to be extremely uncomfortable, and may even become painful but the intensity usually wavers throughout the day. This phase of labor starts with regular elongated contractions. These contractions usually do not progress, become stronger, or closer together for some time.

Mothers who have previously had a baby may only experience prodromal labor during the night.

Rest is your key to getting through this. Endurance may seem impossible because these contractions are STRONG and consistent, which is quite disruptive to rest. Your doula will have some incredible comfort measures and supportive suggestions for you to get power through.

Truth is, the only way to end prodromal labor is to move on to the next phase… delivering your baby.

Partner Anxiety. How A Doula Can Help

Through sickness and health…

This statement doesn’t always include the delivery room. Labor can bring about major feels for your partner.  While they are not the one birthing, we cannot discount that this experience is complex and emotionally driven. The atmosphere may be extremely difficult to navigate and may cause your partner anxiety.

While we have chosen our partner to support us throughout our life, they may not be well equipped to be our “rock” during labor.

Our expectations of them alone, may be enough to send them into a tail spin.

Remaining objective and focused may become impossible for your partner being that they are so emotionally involved. Anxiety can show itself in many ways with the partner. Some partners mentally check out, some faint at the first sight of “fluid”, while others go into control mode making it near impossible for the clinical staff to do their job.

So, if the possibility of panic is more of a probability, add a Labor Doula to your birth team. Anxiety is a major enemy of labor and can be highly contagious. The presence of an anxious partner may spike the creation of adrenaline in the birthing partner, shutting down the labor process or elongating it. A calm and nurturing environment is the ultimate goal for the delivery room.

A doula will never replace the loving attention of your soulmate, they can actually guarantee it, increasing the flow of oxytocin and reducing unwanted partner anxiety.

Labor doulas provide support to both partners, not just mothers. The doula tends to everyone's needs of rest, hydration and education. That way the couple can maintain focus on each other, assuring that they stay attuned to one another.

Just knowing that the birthing partner is being emotionally, and physically supported will lessen stress and absolve partner anxiety.

Thinking of adding a doula to your support team? We find having a doula can help reduce partner anxiety and promote a more calm and nurturing birthing environment. Contact Uptown Doula for your free consultation.

USE YOUR B.R.A.I.N.

We all know that life often hands us situations that are … difficult… you know the ones that make your blood boil, that cause us to come out of the side of our necks. While in public we can swallow, keep our cool and mover forward, this is not always the case behind closed doors.

Our families have a special talent for pushing our buttons, they may even install new ones.

Our kids are no exception, our kids can… well… cause us to react in ways we are not always proud of.

That’s right most experts say take a deep breath and respond rather than react to your situation, and that is great in theory. But, how do we do that?

The only way to achieve a guaranteed response and not reaction is to use our B.R.A.I.N.

Ask Yourself?!? B - Benefits - What is the BENEFIT to choosing to do this? R - Risk – What are the RISKS involved in doing this? A - Alternatives - Are there any ALTERNATIVES to doing this? I - Instincts - What is your INSTINCT or gut feeling telling you to do? N - Nothing - What if you do absolutely NOTHING right now?

These 5 simple questions are guaranteed to turn the situation around. Asking them gives you a moment to pause, it takes you out of an emotional state, and brings you into the rational.

This is how a reaction becomes a response.

It always helps to have a support network, your doula, a circle of peers, other parents you trust, ones who you hold in high regard for their choices in parenting.

Sometimes feedback isn’t necessary, it’s not their opinions you seek. This might even infuriate you further, utilize them nonetheless, just having a sounding board can be beneficial.

Remember, you will always find unbiased, nonjudgmental support with you Uptown Doula.

Cheers! Alcohol and Breastfeeding!

After 9 months of politely saying no to every cocktail and toast, is it ok to finally say yes if you are breastfeeding?

How harmful could it be to have one glass of wine, pop open a beer, have one Cosmo.  Being a new mom is, well, stressful. You could sure use a little libation to take off the edge. Or, perhaps raise your glass to cheers in victory of a milestone.  Besides isn’t is recommended to have a glass of wine a day?

Studies have shown breastfeeding or not, all alcohol is best consumed responsibly in moderation.

Most sources say that drinking is left up to the discretion of the mother, and most medical professionals have suggested all birthing parents to avoid alcohol for the first 3 months postpartum.

Of course, we are discussing taking part in an occasional drink.  Not daily drinking or getting drunk regularly. To be clear we are talking about a glass, not, a bottle of wine. A beer, not, a six pack.

There is a lot of truth in the belief that what you take into your body in turn comes out of your breast milk.

The alcohol that enters your blood stream measures the same as the alcohol that enters your breastmilk. Even though one drink may not affect you it could affect your babies sleep pattern or appetite. An infants’ liver is not mature enough to process alcohol. Regular ongoing consumption has been seen to cause developmental delays.

Being informed about these possibilities is important when making a decision to partake. As, said before the choice is truly up to the parent who is breastfeeding.

Speak to you physician get their take on it if you are truly concerned. You and only you know what is best for your baby and what is safe for your body. Pay attention to cues if you may be planning on drinking perhaps switch your baby over to formula for that time as to ensure they will not be receiving any breastmilk during this period of time.

It is never a bad idea to take precautions.

Your Birth Playlist! Music is a Labor Of Love!

It’s you third trimester and the countdown to the big day is… well… getting close. All of the boxes are steadily getting checked off on your Before Baby Comes Must Do List. You have even packed your hospital bag.  But you are forgetting something. You forgot to make your Birth Playlist. Think about it, how many times have you needed to get rid of all the feels …. so, you blasted “that song” in your car. Or, “that song” that you hear and no matter what you catch yourself dancing.  And we won’t even talk about “that song”, you know your guilty pleasure song, the one that puts a smile on your face on even the grayest day.

A Labor Playlist may even ease your delivery.

NO! We are not kidding. Music makes everything better! Your Birth Playlist is a real thing, Even Spotify has created one.  Singing requires breathing, a key component to laboring. So what better way to bare down then during one of your favorite choruses. There is actually a rhythm to labor some artists have even created music specifically for it like The Rhythm Within. It is proven.

So why not prep a playlist for one of the most incredible experiences of your life, it might even help?

Here are our Top 10 to get you started… then the rest is up to you…

1. Capri – Colbie Caillet
2. Better Together – Jack Johnson
3. Warmth - Incubus
4. Dog Days Are Over – Florence & The Machine
5. To Make You Feel My Love – Adele
6. Colorblind – Counting Crows
7. Oceans (here Feet May Fail) - Hillsong United
8. I Will Wait - Mumford & Sons
9. Home – Phillip Phillips
10. Brave – Sara Bareilles

We have so many more incredible song suggestions that are sure to have you laboring and listening to music you love.

Visit us at Uptown Doula. We would love to connect with you!

I Ate My Placenta

To eat or not to eat your placenta?

"Hold up! You ate what?” I get this question a lot. It’s usually followed up with, “You mean the placenta that came out of your vagina?” Bingo, although it doesn’t always come out that way. When you tell someone you have encapsulated your placenta or you are considering encapsulating your placenta you will most likely get a lot of comments and if not, you will definitely get a lot of questions. People who don’t know much about placenta encapsulation are curious and might even be a little bit skeptical about how it all works. Don’t worry, I'm with you every step of the way.

Bouncing back

I have three kids and only encapsulated with my second child. Looking back I really wish I had done this the first time around but at the time my husband and I were just starting our family and didn’t know people did this. I mean, why would we even think to ask? It wasn’t until I started integrating myself into the parenting community and meeting new moms (and doulas) did I learn about placenta encapsulation. What blew my mind was, It wasn't just "crunchy" moms doing this. This was a choice all types of families were making and I was eager to learn more. Problem was there wasn't a lot of research out there supporting placenta consumption. Bummer. What I did find was tons of anecdotal information which lead me to want to encapsulate my placenta after having my second child.

The first time around wasn't easy for me. My daughter's birth was extremely traumatizing. My epidural wore off after a couple hours, forceps were used to deliver my baby, and my newborn was rushed to the level two nursery after she was born because she took in meconium during birth, which left me all alone in the labor room for a good hour and that was a very unsettling feeling. This wasn't the birth experience I imagined and looking back I realize this was just the beginning of my battle with postpartum depression. Of course, at the time I denied what I was going through because what did I have to be depressed about? I had this precious baby girl in my arms, my marriage was as strong as ever, I knew I was never going back to being an accountant at my ever so lame desk job, everyone in our family was healthy, my hair wasn't falling out (yet), and my pregnancy weight was melting off. I seriously couldn't figure out what the hell was going on so I sat in it. I sat in this funk for several weeks before getting professional help.

Six months later things started looking up again and my husband and I decided we were ready for baby number two. I spent my entire pregnancy figuring out ways to make this experience different from the first. I hired a doula who also offered placenta encapsulation), found a mid-wife who was open to me having a water birth, read all the books, watched all the documentaries, joined all the local mom groups, and immersed myself in all things birth.

When I got closer to my due date, I was scared. This birth I've been planning for was getting closer and closer and I wasn't sure how it was all going to unfold. Will it be like last time? WillI need the epidural? Will forceps be used? The fear was real but my doula was very reassuring and that made such a difference. Long story short, I experienced precipitous labor so I never had time to be afraid because the entire labor was only three short hours. When my placenta was born we made sure to put it on ice right away so we could get it put into pills as soon as possible. My doula was quick too. She had my pills ready to go before I even left the hospital.

I noticed a HUGE difference once I started taking my placenta pills. My milk came in the next day, my energy was back, and I only had one short week of postpartum bleeding which was ahhhmazing! Those were the obvious signs that convinced me there was something to placenta encapsulation. Overall my mood was more positive. Sure I struggled from time to time. These pills aren't magic and they definitely didn't take away every negative emotion because I still had strong feelings but when negative emotions tried to take over I didn't let it. I was able to feel what I needed to feel at the time and move on.

History of the Placenta

The placenta is a very fascinating organ. It is the only organ that is grown for a specific purpose and completely discards once its mission is compete.  Throughout history the placenta has not only served as a physiological necessity during pregnancy but it has also served as a symbolic function for the baby right after he is born. In this day and age there is still so much to learn about the placenta and more specifically, in regards to placentophagy. Placenta healing has played an important role in the history of childbirth.

During medieval times the placenta was also called, “the bed of the child” because of how much comfort was involved. There was so much to learn about the placenta during that time and by the end of the 18th century the placenta became known as, “the other half of a newborn.” This intimate bond was so great Indonesians would call the Placenta the “brother” or “sister” of the baby and it would become its protector.

In most cultures the tree of life can be found in their history. The mighty trunk represents a symbol of power and peace while the changing of leaves represents a symbol of life. It’s no wonder the placenta is often referred to as the tree of life. When you look at the fetal side of the placenta you can clearly see the symbolic connection. In some cultures such as Indonesia the placenta is planted in a special pot and hung in a waringin tree. Since this tree is long-living the baby can benefit from it’s age over time. In Nigeria, small Ibo villages are surrounded with banana fields. Each banana planted represents the birth of a child and therefore every banana is named after the newborn baby. Throughout the years, the fruits were known to provide nurturing effects and healing for the children. When it comes to fertility, the fruits of an apple tree were considered sacred. If a woman approached a birth tree and ate one of the apples she was to become pregnant with a new baby. Some families would also bury the placenta under their home in order to benefit from its powers of fertility.

Charms were often used to provide special protection to the newborn. In some cases part of the dried placenta would be tied around the baby’s neck or secured to a golden necklace or bracelet. In some instances men would carry a dry piece of placenta in their pocket to bring about good luck.

As you can see throughout history, the placenta has provided so much love and protection for families of different cultures. Today, the placenta is still providing many of the same benefits and we are continuing to learn more about this special organ.

The encapsulation process 

Towards the end of your pregnancy I will check in and make sure you have all the information you need and answer any questions or concerns you may have. You will be in control of your placenta the entire time it’s in the hospital until it’s taken home and encapsulated. That means your partner or family member will be responsible for bringing a cooler to the hospital and having it put on ice within 4 hours and taken home and refrigerated within 4 days. At your next appointment be sure to let your doctor know you are planning to keep your placenta after birth. It’s a good idea to let the hospital staff also know when you arrive.

The entire process is done right in the privacy of your own home! When you are ready for me to come to your house and start the process I will need approximately 2 hours for two consecutive days. I will need access to a stove, sink, running water, small area of counter space and an outlet in a secure location. These areas I just mentioned will be cleaned and sanitized by your placenta specialist.

In order to protect myself and your placenta I make sure to wear protective coverings including a mask, apron, gloves, and safety goggles. I also bring all of my equipment with me and take it all back when I leave each day plus leave your kitchen cleaner than when we found it.

On day one, your placenta will be cleaned and steamed in order to kill any bacteria. You shouldn’t notice any smells as we steam with lemon and ginger. After that I will thinly slice your placenta and place it in the dehydrator overnight. At any time during the process you are welcome to ask questions, take pictures and even touch your placenta.

On day two, we once again clean and sanitize our workspace and grind your placenta which will immediately be placed into capsules. Upon completion we will provide you with consumption guidelines and answer any questions you might have.

Questions to ask your placenta specialist 

“THIS” placenta only gets encapsulated once so when you are planning to hire someone to encapsulate your precious organ it’s important to ask them questions so you understand their values and processing methods. Here are some important questions to help point you in the right direction.

What organization did you train under? You really want someone who is professionally trained to be handling your placenta and processing it for consumption. That’s a no brainer. When they do give you their training organization name, check it out to see if their values line up with what you’re looking for. Usually you will find their mission statement and values right on their home page. YouTube is not going to cut it and if that’s the answer, stop all questions and move on.

Are you blood-borne pathogen certified? This goes hand in hand with the first question and also extremely important to know. Although placenta encapsulation has not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration you want your placenta specialist to work like it is.

Do you process placentas in your client’s home? This is the big one. Unfortunately, there is no regulation or strict rules in this industry. Most states don’t even have regulations regarding the transport of your placenta out of the hospital so anyone can take off with it as long as the family gives consent and signs a waiver. When you allow your placenta to leave your possession you have no idea where it’s going, what it comes in contact with or how many other placentas are waiting in line to be processed. That’s a lot of unknown which is why it’s so important to never let your placenta leave your possession. When you have a placenta specialist come into your home you never have to wonder those things because you can watch everything they are doing (or not. Totally up to you).

How many capsules can you guarantee? It’s easy to spot a red flag here. If you are promised a certain number of capsules, stop all questions and continue on with your search. The number of pills you get is all dependent on the size of your placenta. Bigger baby means bigger placenta which means more pills. I will never be able to guarantee a number but I can provide you with a rough estimate. If you are guaranteed a certain number of pills, chances are your placenta is being processed with other herbs or chemicals. That’s no bueno.

If you are interested in placenta encapsulation and want to speak with a postpartum placenta specialist, visit Uptown Doula to schedule a FREE phone consultation. We would love to hear from you!