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Avoiding A C-Section. Is it Possible?

Pregnancy is such a magical thing. We go nine months dreaming and preparing for the perfect labor and delivery, analyzing every little moment. There are tons of fears and concerns for different people going into labor. Will it hurt? Will I tear? Will I poop? (that’s a whole other topic that we will discuss, but shit happens). One of the biggest concerns parents have going into their big day is, “What if I need a c-section?”. This concern is totally valid. A cesarean is major surgery and usually over with fairly fast. There are many medical reasons for needing a c-section, but the big question is, Can they be avoided? The answer is, YES! A c-section can be avoided, in most cases. However, in the event of a true emergency, sometimes its needed for the health and safety of the birthing person and baby. Please note that if you do end up needing a c-section… that is okay! You are still a bad ass and you are no less than anyone who has had a vaginal birth. We are all AMAZING. 

Anyways, Here are my top things you can do to avoid a c-section:

 

1.    STAY EDUCATED. Its so important to be educated on your rights during labor. Informed consent is real and you can say NO to anything you do not want. Staying educated will let you know what interventions are actually medically necessary for you or your baby.

2.    CHOOSE YOUR PROVIDER CAREFULLY. There are some providers/birthing places that are cut happy and love to revert to a c-section no matter what. If you are birthing in a hospital, check their c-section rates. 

3.    LABOR AT HOME AS LONG AS POSSIBLE. If the birthing person and baby are healthy and there are no further complications, laboring at home as long as possible can hinder any possible interventions that can lead to a c-section. Examples: Pitocin, AROM(breaking of waters).

4.    AVOID INDUCTION. Although there are multiple factors to this, avoiding an induction will minimize the number of interventions needed. 

5.    HIRE A DOULA. Hiring a professional to educate and help you advocate for yourself can give you some of the best outcomes for your birth. 

In hindsight, we can do everything under the sun to avoid a c-section, but sometimes baby has other plans. It’s important to remember that a healthy baby is really the goal and there is no shame in which way you birth!

Written by: Natalie Story

How Do Doulas Help Parents Delivering By Cesarean?

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Labor doulas are typically hired by people planning to have a vaginal birth. A doula's knowledge of normal physiological birth, the constant support through labor, and the skilled hands-on care are all reasons doulas are growing in popularity.

But what if you suddenly need a surgical birth or are planning a cesarean delivery from the onset? Are labor doulas helpful then?

Yes.

When it becomes necessary to decide to have a non-emergency cesarean, after long hours of hard labor, the flood of emotions is intense and overwhelming for many. The medical team will be focused on getting you prepared physically for unexpected surgery.

Your doula will be focused on your mental and emotional preparedness.

Having all your questions answered, understanding the risks, helping you wade through the options all happen before the choice is made. And once made, your doula can help you to prepare for what will happen next.

  • Your doula will outline what you can expect to see, smell, and experience in the operating room.

  • Your doula will outline what the next few hours will look like, and when you see her next (if doulas are not allowed in the operating room), and keeping you and your partner tuned into each other while getting ready to meet your baby.

  • Your doula can help your partner know how they can support you through surgery if she is not able to attend.

Help During Recovery

After surgery, you are going to need immediate help from both the medical team and support team for the first hours after you deliver. Having a cesarean birth is major abdominal surgery, and nurses will monitor your vital signs and postpartum bleeding.

Usually, in those first hours, parents are eager to have skin-to-skin or start breastfeeding. Families now have time together that may have felt stolen because of the limitations a surgery places on movement and autonomy. All of these activities require more care and attention because of the strain they apply to the new surgical wound on the lower abdomen, and a doula is a skilled set of extra hands and knowledge to help families reconnect.

A doula can help with positioning, answer questions about breastfeeding, and be available to keep baby in a safe position. At the same time, the birthing parent continues to come fully aware after the anesthesia wears off.

Planned Cesarean Delivery

For those people who know they are going to deliver by cesarean, having doula support through pregnancy can offer some unique advantages. Having a doula can lead to better home planning for your post-operative abilities, combined with the needs of your new baby. A doula's experience can help you understand what will and won't be possible after surgery and help you identify any ways you may need to adapt.

It's a complicated world post-surgery of understanding your body's new abilities, caring for your baby, and the intense emotions that come with being a new parent. Having a doula helps make all of the big questions seem smaller, and the unknowns easier to adjust.

Doulas are not only for an unmedicated vaginal birth. Doulas are for any person who wants one-on-one personal support through an experience that can be intense and overwhelming.

What Should You Bring To Your Hospital Birth?

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There are so many ways to pack for your hospital birth.

Do you like to have options?
Do you feel best being prepared for any possible need?
Do you need fewer options, so you feel less overwhelmed?


Only you know how you operate best in stressful situations. 

Your hospital bag can serve so many other functions, too, besides holding all your stuff!
Is planning your bag something that helps you relax in the days leading up to labor? Does it make you happy to put it together? Do you like a challenge to start with ALL the things and then whittle it down to what will fit in your ideal case?

OR

Do you see birth as a short overnight trip away from home and pack economically?


Packing your hospital bag can be a “labor project” or something that helps you take your mind off some of the stress the end of pregnancy can place on you.

Here is the part where we reassure you and offer the reminder that people often have babies at inopportune times. And the hospital has things to help everyone - not just people with their overnight bag. Things like toothpaste and toothbrushes, towels and wash rags, and those lovely hospital gowns to keep your clothes as fresh as possible. 

But let's hope you won't need to walk into a hospital off the street, and you'll have time to go to the hospital in the way and manner of your dreams. With that as the plan, what would you bring? 

The items below are listed as a building set. Based on our experiences, we have seen families use the following items and appreciate their being with them from "Essential" to "All The Things." Have fun reading through, and if you think of something that would be perfect for you and it isn't here - pack that too!

What To Pack For Your Hospital Birth

Essential:

  • Wallet: medical card, ID, Debit or Credit card

  • Cell phone & charger

  • 2 Shirts

  • 2 Pants with elastic waist

  • Slip-on shoes

  • Dop Kit: toothbrush & toothpaste, chapstick, any medication & glasses

  • Carseat

Added comfort: 

  • Robe

  • Slippers

  • Book/magazine

  • 2 Nursing bras

  • Dop Kit: lotion, facial cleansing cloths, brush, hairbands, shampoo & conditioner

  • Hand fan

  • Water bottle

  • Snacks

  • Headphones

  • Baby: going home outfit, muslin blanket

  • Underwear for going home

A bit more for the unknown:

  • A printed copy of your birth plan

  • Pillow

  • Preferred nipple cream

  • Breast pads

  • Tissues

  • Extra outfit for baby

  • Essential oils

  • Belly Band

  • Hand cream

  • Battery-powered fan

  • Towel

  • Bluetooth speaker

  • Flipflops

Details for all the things you want: 

  • Any tools you imagine for pain management: birth ball & pump, tennis balls and/or massage tools

  • TENS Unit

  • Rebozo or woven scarf

  • Heating pad

  • Meditations and/or affirmations

  • Eye mask & earplugs

  • Props/outfit for newborn photos

Simple and Budget-Savvy Ideas for Soon-To-Be Moms

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Babies are so many things — precious, miraculous, beautiful, fresh, sweet, innocent. Oh, and let’s not forget expensive! Our little bundles of joy involve a fair amount of spending, especially at the beginning. With that in mind, here’s how to prepare for your baby’s arrival so you’ll have everything you’ll need without going broke. 

 

Build a Killer Wardrobe

 

Throughout the months leading up to and following your baby’s arrival, your body will experience a steady flow of changes. While that might seem obvious, how to handle the effect on your wardrobe can be puzzling. 

 

One suggestion is to aim for a handful of basics with simple, forgiving styles and neutral colors.  That way, they can mix and match, providing you with a versatile foundation. Also, think in terms of stretchy, comfortable fabrics. Yoga pants, empire waist tops, and wrap dresses can go from the office to a party with the right accessories. 

 

Putting Me Together points out that you can rely on pieces in your existing wardrobe to help round things out. Fold-over skirts, blazers, and cardigans can stay with you throughout your body’s many transitions — just add a great scarf, belt, or statement necklace for a fab ensemble. By pairing eye-catching accessories with your well-chosen basics, you can enjoy a killer wardrobe throughout the transitions of the coming months. 

 

Be Ready for Anything

 

Moms wear a lot of hats, and once your baby is here, it won’t take long to realize you need to be ready for just about anything, all the time. With that in mind, Kindred Bravely suggests thinking outside the box when it’s time to pack your diaper bag. An extra T-shirt provides a fresh change in the event of an ill-timed spit up, hair ties keep your locks away from grabby little fingers, and a wet bag can come to the rescue when there is a mess you can’t properly dispose of, such as a diaper blowout or that spit-up-covered top. 

 

Research great deals and stock up now — when your little one is here and you’re tired from feedings and diaper changes, you’ll thank yourself for the forethought!

 

Baby-Friendly Basics

 

Babies have tender skin, and many moms struggle with finding economical, baby-safe products for the day-in, day-out rigmarole. However, you can DIY a bunch of things that are not only baby-friendly but also budget-friendly and earth-friendly. 

 

As an example, you can make laundry detergent using ingredients such as washing soda, baking soda, and liquid soap. Baby wipes can be constructed from old rags cut into squares, then soaked with a blend of gentle cleaning agents, such as witch hazel, almond oil, and aloe vera. You can even make a cleaning spray for toys by simply mixing water, distilled vinegar, and lemon essential oil in a spray bottle. You might want to mix up a small amount to take along in your diaper bag for sprucing up your baby’s things while you’re out and about.

 

Shop Around for Seats

 

When it comes to your baby’s safety, chances are you are willing to spend whatever it takes, but is it worthwhile to invest in a high-dollar car seat? The Penny Hoarder explains that you’ll likely be better off putting your effort into finding a car seat that fits your budget and purposes. All car seats sold in the US must meet minimum safety requirements, so after that, it’s primarily up to you to determine which bells and whistles matter to you. 

 

There are dollar-savvy advantages in the convertible and three-in-one style seats since your child can use them until a car seat is no longer needed. However, sometimes buying an infant seat and then moving to a booster is less costly. Shop around for the best deals, and have peace of mind with purchasing the car seat that fits your wallet. 

 

You have plenty to spend your money on in preparation for your baby, but a little planning can go a long way toward stretching your funds. Build a killer wardrobe with versatile basics, prep essentials, and shop around for great deals. Kids might not be cheap, but they’re worth it!

Alternatives to Glucola for Diabetes Testing

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Of all the tests pregnant women go through, the Glucose Challenge Test is arguably the one you hear about most often. Down an electric orange drink, wait, and have your blood drawn...sounds fun, right? Some people don’t mind the drink (called Glucola) while others search for alternatives. There are alternate options for both what you consume and how you test.


Guidelines currently call for a glucose challenge test around 24-28 weeks of pregnancy. The test is typically drinking a sweet drink and then having a blood test done an hour later to determine blood sugar levels. This test is used to help determine the occurrence of Gestational Diabetes which can pose a host of issues to both mom and baby during pregnancy.


If the pregnant person passes this test, they won’t be re-tested. Should they fail it, they’ll have to pass a longer test that involves a higher level of glucose.


Rates of GD have risen in recent decades so it is important to get tested. It’s estimated that anywhere from 5-10% of pregnant people have Gestational Diabetes and it’s important that those people be identified and treated to avoid complications.


Some people just hate the way Glucola tastes, some take issue with the ingredients...for whatever reason, there are definitely people searching for alternatives. The research put out found that the important part of the test was the 50g of sugar, not the source, and concluded that results were the same when a group of women given Glucola was compared to a group of women given Jelly Beans. The tests were the same.


It’s important to always refer back to your OB or Midwife when considering alternatives.


Common alternatives include:


6 oz Orange Juice and 1 Banana

28 Jelly Beans

A Soda with 50g Sugar

16 oz Orange Juice


These are options used by doctors and midwives around the country and definitely worth exploring.


Alternate ways of testing include Blood Sugar Monitoring as well as Hemoglobin A1C Testing. These both require much more testing, more time, and more involvement for you and your healthcare provider and it’s important to consult them on your options.


Blood Sugar Monitoring is exactly what it sounds like. You’ll monitor your own blood sugar levels by pricking your finger multiple times a day for a week and using a blood sugar testing unit.


Hemoglobin A1C Testing is a draw that monitors blood sugar levels over a three month period. It has been used as an alternative to the normal Glucose testing and is routinely used for those with Diabetes outside of pregnancy.


It’s also important to remember that the GD testing is a screening process and not an actual diagnostic. If you happen to fail the first screening, don’t panic immediately. It’s possible that you’ll be fine with the more extended testing!


Gestational Diabetes is something we should definitely monitor and treat but there are alternatives to the traditional screening. By working together with your provider to create a plan for you, you’ll find the perfect way to monitor and ensure your health is optimal and your baby is thriving through your whole pregnancy.


OUCH! Is Breastfeeding Supposed to Hurt?

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Your baby has entered the world and your breastfeeding journey has begun!


It’s going along and all of the sudden OUCH!


Out of nowhere, pinching or bleeding...is it supposed to be like this?


There’s a misconception surrounding breastfeeding that because it’s the biological norm it’s somehow effortless. Breastfeeding parents are often thrown for a loop when they figure out that isn’t the case and that, yes, it can even be painful.


While slight discomfort may be normal, extended pain is definitely not. Nor is bleeding, cracking, or extreme soreness.

Common Issues

Improper Latch

Dealing with the issues starts at the source. If you notice your nipples are excessively sore, cracked, or bleeding, it’s important to address the source of the discomfort. Often this ends up being a shallow or improper latch, causing baby to pull in areas they aren’t meant to. To avoid this, ensure baby is latched fully when nursing and that the areola is deep inside baby’s mouth. If these things aren’t the case, unlatch and try starting again.


If you aren’t sure, chat with your doula or a Lactation professional! Usually these things are quick and easy fixes but sometimes further evaluation into why the baby isn’t latching properly is necessary. It’s possible the root problem is a lip or tongue tie that will need to be diagnosed and possibly revised by a doctor.


Thrush


If you have persistent cracking and bleeding that doesn’t seem remedied, it’s possible you may have Thrush.


Yes, anyone can get it, not just babies!


Thrush is a yeast overgrowth that typically occurs in warm, moist places (like cracked nipples and baby mouths). Usually yeast are kept at bay but babies and newly postpartum mothers have compromised immune systems, leaving them susceptible to issues like Thrush. If this sounds like you, let your doctor know. You’ll need a prescription cream to kick that mess.


Engorgement

If your breasts feel rock-hard and sore, you may be engorged. Engorgement occurs when your breasts are unable to fully empty before they produce more milk. While it can be sort of normal in the early days once your milk fully transitions from Colostrum, it’s important to make sure you’re avoiding it. Persistent Engorgement could be a signal that you have Overproduction issues or Latch issues (a lot of it goes back to baby’s latch!).


If you’re engorged for an extended amount of time it’s possible to develop Mastitis. Mastitis is a nasty infection that you definitely don’t want to get with flu-like symptoms and rapidly spiking fevers. If you suspect you have it, contact your doctor ASAP. You’ll need Antibiotics to kick it.


Fixing the Problems


Now, you’re probably thinking, “Okay, that’s great that I know why but what can I do right now?


Dry Healing


While in the past we were told to douse ourselves in Lanolin and Coconut Oil, new research suggests that dry healing is best. Keep nipples clean and dry aside from when you’re nursing.


Warm Showers, Baths, or Compresses


If you find yourself with soreness or engorgement, try a warm shower, bath, or compress to provide some relief. Engorgement or blocked ducts can also be helped by combining one of these options with massaging any sore spots toward the nipple.


Fix Baby’s Latch


Chat with a Lactation professional and have them evaluate how your baby is doing with latching. If the issue is latch, they’ll be able to adjust it and get you on the road to healing. An incredible local resource is Carolyn Honea of Lake Norman Breastfeeding Solutions! Visit her site here.


Contrary to what many older generations tell us, Breastfeeding pain is not normal nor should you suffer through it! Cracked and bleeding nipples, extreme soreness, and prolonged discomfort are not normal parts of breastfeeding and there is help to fix it!

Supporting C-Sections: Doulas for Cesarean Birth

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Cesarean Birth is something that every pregnant person must evaluate. While it’s not ideal for most birth plans, there is a myth that doulas can’t support a C-Section. False! Doulas can be an incredible source of help for any birth outcome, including a C-Section. Combining a wealth of knowledge and experience, doulas bring emotional, physical, and educational support to each and every client.


1 Emotional Support


Any surgery can be fraught with worry, stress, and a general sense of uncertainty. This is super normal but especially when faced with a surgery to bring your baby into the world. Not only does this affect your life, it affects the life of your unborn baby! It’s no wonder there’s a huge need for emotional support when your birth plan includes a Cesarean. Often fear comes from the unknown. Your doula knows all about common procedures, options, and exactly what will happen once you embark upon your birth. They’ll walk you and your partner through each and every step beforehand and be there to affirm and support during and after as well.


2 Physical Support


Some hospitals allow doulas into the Operating Room. While in the OR, often your doula will stay with you if your partner needs to leave to go to the NICU with baby. Should you feel cold or unstable, your doula can be there to help keep you warm or even just place a hand on your shoulder. Once your procedure is complete and you’re in recovery, often women find themselves shivering and unable to control it or even nauseated. Your doula is skilled and experienced in helping you through these physical symptoms as well as helping you to nurse your baby as soon as possible if you decide to breastfeed. The stress can also get to your partner, your doula can be there and allow your partner to sit and take a breath after the birth of your new little one!


3 Choices in Childbirth


You may not have seen your birth going this way but that doesn’t mean that through the twists and turns you don’t have options. A doula can help walk you through what choices you can make as well as you journey through. From how and when baby is fed to what music is played during your cesarean, you do have choices! There are things that may be available to you that enhance your birthing experience such as clear drapes, skin-to-skin just after birth, and attempting to breastfeed in the OR.  Your doula will be familiar with your birthplace’s options and can help you pick the best things for you and your family.


Maybe you knew you’d need a C-Section when you got pregnant. Maybe it’s a surprise change you weren’t expecting. Planned or unplanned, your Cesarean birth can be a beautifully supported experience with the skills your doula brings. In addition, they can help you know exactly where in Charlotte is ideal for what you’re hoping to experience during the birth of your baby. Your doula will navigate seamlessly, helping to make for a more smooth and comfortable experience for your family.

Our Favorite Toddler Shows (without Talking Animals)

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Team Umizoomi

This cute show features two main characters, Milli and Geo, and a robot named Bot. Together they soar through space and explore math concepts. From counting to simple addition and subtraction, this show is a well done dive into prepping kids to enter preschool by introducing numbers in a fun way.


Little Einsteins


An oldie but a goody, Little Einsteins is based on the ideas behind the Baby Einstein franchise. This show’s main characters are Leo, Annie, June, and Quincy. They fly in their rocket and solve puzzles in each episode. Weaving classical paintings and music into each adventure, this show also introduces concepts like patterns, colors, and shapes.


Sid the Science Kid


In classic Ed Henson style, Sid the Science Kid features human-like characters who are very...well, Muppet-inspired. They are definitely kids and Sid, the lead, loves to explore new scientific questions, theories, and concepts. Touching on a range of subjects, this show is full of fun characters and learning.


Yo Gabba Gabba!


Okay, this show isn’t *technically* talking animals because they’re…..well, we don’t know what they are. But the’re not animals. Yo Gabba Gabba is a brilliantly colored show full of electronic music, emotions, and fun dances. While not educational in a school sense, it touches on everyday skills like sharing, brushing teeth, and getting ready for bed. Plus it features some of our favorite bands. This is one we’ll actually watch too.


Charlie and Lola


The misadventures of Charlie and Lola are somehow soothing and precious as these siblings stumble through life learning together. This UK-based show features soft colors, life lessons, and main characters with British accents. This one’s pretty sweet.

Top 5 Books for New Big Siblings

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Becoming a big sibling can bring a range of emotions from excitement to fear. An incredible way to help kids talk about those things? Books! Read your littles stories of big brothers and big sisters to help them understand and relate to what the characters are going through. We’ve gathered 5 great options for your bedtime stories to add to your library.


1. Lola Reads to Leo by Anna McQuinn :


This sweet book highlights the main character, Lola, and her love of reading. She, of course, wants to introduce that love to her new baby brother. From bringing a soft book to her new brother’s crib to reading him a book in the evening, she thinks being a big sister is the “best gift of all”. This story promotes a love of reading and a love of sharing with the new baby, making it the perfect addition to your library.


2. The New Small Person by Lauren Child :


This story is a very familiar tale for many families. An older sibling and an unwelcome change to their dynamic. Elmore Green takes to calling his new sibling “it” and recounts the tale of how “it” licks his jelly bean collection! The shift from only child to older brother can be a tricky one and this book does a beautiful job of combining a common struggle with beautiful imagery and finally reaching the resolution of a new small person being a friend.


3. Once Upon a Baby Brother by Sarah Sullivan:


Older siblings can have very conflicting thoughts about a new baby joining their family. They have typically been the sole focus of their parents for their whole lives! With that shift comes a new dynamic. Sarah Sullivan tells this story from Lizzie, a celebrated and gifted storyteller’s perspective. It’s a sweet and helpful way to introduce the concept of a baby to a sibling who might be old enough to understand just what’s going on.


4. Outside Over There by Maurice Sendak :


A strange fantasy tale, this book is one full of differing emotions from love to resentment. When goblins steal Ida’s baby sister to make her a goblin bride, Ida must go “outside over there” to get her back. This may seem a weird addition to this list but everything that a new sibling goes through, emotion-wise.


5. Ish by Peter H Reynolds :


This book makes the list for the middle siblings. A story about Ramon and his love of drawing, his hopes, dreams, and joy are all dashed in a split second by a comment made by his older brother. When he realizes his art isn’t perfect, he plans to destroy it all until his younger sister steps in and helps him see that art doesn’t have to be perfect, it can be “-ish”. This story highlights both the importance of celebrating imperfections and the bond between siblings.

Questions to Ask Your Placenta Encapsulator

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Placenta Encapsulation has been a hot topic for pregnant people and healthcare providers alike recently. With families in Charlotte often calling us to learn more, we decided to compile a list of questions you should be asking before you book your Placenta Encapsulation. Uptown Doula makes it top priority to ensure the safety of each of our clients that books this service with us and we believe in asking the right questions!


1. Where do you Encapsulate?

Where your encapsulator processes your placenta is incredibly important. Do they have a dedicated space or will their family be eating dinner next to your placenta? Do they have pets that could introduce different microbial elements to the delicate microbiome of your placenta?

Uptown Doula will only process your placenta in your home. We feel it is the safest for our clients as it ensures that there are not foreign elements to your placenta and it never leaves your possession. There is no risk of it being confused with someone else’s and you also get to watch the sanitization process.


2. What is your process?


Your encapsulator should be able to walk you through each step of the process they will be performing.


Uptown Doula completes a thorough sanitizing of the area we’ll be working in, and steams, dehydrates, grinds, and encapsulates the placenta over the course of two days.


3. Can you guarantee a certain number of pills?


Unfortunately, it’s impossible to guarantee a certain number of pills. The yield from the process varies based on the size of your placenta. If anyone gives you a guaranteed number, run! There’s a possibility they will add herbs or other foreign substances to increase the number of pills.


4. Are you Blood Borne Pathogen Certified?


BBP certification is important to ensure the proper disposal and cleaning of any organ that contains blood. The proper procedures should be employed to make sure that there is no cross-contamination and pathogens have been destroyed.


5. Will you use a raw or low temp method?


Knowing this is key to making sure you’re using someone you trust. Doing your own research on this topic is key. A raw or low-temp method is supposedly less invasive and yields more capsules. However, a raw method does leave you open to the risk of pathogens that cannot be destroyed using low temperatures.


Uptown Doula will not use a raw method of encapsulation, we use a method close to the Traditional Chinese Method.


6. Who are you trained through?


There are encapsulators who process Placentas with no formal training. Asking this question leaves nothing to chance, and gives you the information you need to make the best decision for you.


7. At what point would you not encapsulate?


If a fever occurs during labor, your placenta should not be processed. There are a few other situations in which safety is in question, and these should definitely be discussed.


Placenta Encapsulation has been reported to aid in healing, milk production, energy, mood stabilizing, and more. The benefits of this process are many but the safety of it is often debated. By asking the right questions, you can take your safety into your own hands, leaving nothing to chance. Your safety is the absolute top priority of Uptown Doula when you’re finding your Postpartum Placenta Specialist in Charlotte.

Interested in placenta services? If so, you can do that right here! We are standing by to answer all your questions and help point you in the right direction.

Self-Care Isn't Selfish, It's Necessary

Self-care isn't selfish, it's necessary. Let me ask you a question. If you had 45 minutes of self-care time a day how would you spend it?  

You have kids and trust me, I get it. I’ve got three young kids myself which means I’ve got three tiny little humans constantly needing something from me which doesn’t leave much time for me to take care of myself.

Lets’ be honest here. You can’t give what you don’t have. Just like coffee, if the pot is empty, you won’t be able to fill your cup.

Not long after moving to the Charlotte, North Carolina area I made a conscience effort to take care of myself and make “me” a priority. I told myself, “2018 is going to be my year! I'm going to kick ass and grow Uptown Doula. In with the new and out with the old."

In order to make this happen though, I needed to figure out what was bringing me down the most and start there.  It wasn’t hard to realize what was holding me back... My body image. For you, it may be something else totally unrelated. That's ok! My struggles may be different from your struggles. My needs may be polar opposite of your needs. What's holding me back may not be what's holding you back. Figure out what's weighing you down (no pun intended, I promise) and start there. 

I’ve never had to struggle with weight until now. As a young child I was very active. I was a gymnast, I played softball, basketball and even ran cross-country and track. Throughout the years I never gave much thought about my weight, BMI or nutrition plan. Fad diets were never on my radar either. I ate and drank whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.

It wasn’t until the birth of my third child that I noticed a difference in my body. First time around I bounced back pretty fast after giving birth, but I had a harder time after giving birth to my third baby.

I did all the things: I joined a local gym, counted calories, began a running routine, and said goodbye to craft beer. Of course, none of these things were sustainable (for me anyway). I stopped going to the gym after about two weeks, started eating crappy food again, quit running after day 4, and began enjoying craft beer again (By the way, the last one was not entirely my fault. We had company over and I couldn’t let them drink alone. That’s just rude).

Overall, I felt like an absolute failure and began the downward spiral and self-loathing phase. It was horrible and not how I imagined myself being as a mother of three. I knew then something had to change.

A few months ago, I started my two-week, free trial at Burn Boot Camp in Denver, North Carolina. I knew several close friends who raved about Burn so I thought I’d give it a shot. It was two weeks of free childcare. I wasn’t going to pass that up plus it would let me know right away if it was going to be sustainable for me long-term.

Day one was scary and I’m not entirely sure why. The hardest part was making the decision to sign up, now all I had to do was show up and do the work. Full disclosure: This place is intense! Each camp last 45-minutes and you work the entire time plus there’s usually a fun, high-intensity finisher at the end. Because you’re working so hard, the 45-minutes flies by.

There’s your silver lining.

What makes Burn Boot Camp so unique from other health clubs is, you’re actually pushed past what you think you can do. I’m a little embarrassed to say that when I was working out on my own I would use no more than 5-pound weights. Now I use 15-25 pound weights. Don’t worry, you won’t end up looking like a beefy body builder (unless you want to) but you will look and feel much stronger than you do right now. Empowering, yes?

When you walk into Burn, you are surrounded by women, mostly moms, just like you. Being a mother can be lonely at times. We’re so busy and life demands so much from us, so it’s refreshing to meet other moms going through some of the same struggles you are and powering through camp together with the sound of energetic, hip-hop music in the background (we know this is your jam).

No matter what state of fitness you fall into, your highly trained, certified personal trainers are there to guide you, help improve your form, and even dish out high fives along the way. They even provide individualized focus meetings where you set your goals and devise a plan that fits your unique lifestyle. Nutrition is important and your Burn trainer helps build a meal plan that actually works! After all, food was meant to be enjoyed right?

If you are thinking about taking the plunge and joining this amazing women-centered gym, now is the best time to do it! Commit 2 Fit is back by popular demand! This amazing 6-week challenge runs from September 4th – November 16th and is only $99!

This very small investment packs a HUGE punch!

You not only get six full weeks of high intensity (self-care) work-outs, you also get a packet full of information including: Accountability calendar, fitness challenges, eating guide. and stretching routine. 

Curious about what a typical Burn Camp is like? Check out their Facebook page. Billy Haynes is the owner of Denver, North Carolina’s Burn Boot Camp and he’s also the Lead Certified Personal Trainer and a super nice guy who sinceerly wants to help you feel your best!

Why join Burn?

Because your body will thank you later

Because sometimes that push is all you need.

Because working out with friends makes it so much more fun.

Because it cleanses your mind and channels your energy

Because it feels good.

Because it’s addicting and you’ll love it! I pinky swear.